Spending quality time with your kid

Be a friend, not just a parent!!

Spending time with your child is important for both mothers as well as fathers. This has been known for ages but the most important thing is not just spending time but communicating with them well enough on a routine basis.

Now with both parents working, and kids busy with their school and their extra classes, we hardly get any time to talk to our kids effectively. For this, some parents might take out their lunchtime or some might take a day off but then its just once in a while. Kids are under lots of stress as they hardly have any friends like we used to have when we were growing up. So as parents it's our duty to fulfill their need for a friend. As a mother, I firmly believe that if parents show that they understand their child and make them feel they are always there for them, the kids will be much more successful and confident in life. For this, communication is the only way. But then it doesn't mean to sit with them and talk as the kids, in general, doesn't open up like that. We have to make a routine. Like I used to do take my child for a walk when my kid was younger and then that part of the day, he himself used to share with me what all has happened with him at school and his fears, his inhibitions, and many such things like that. We continued this ritual as long as we could. I saw that what I couldn't achieve while playing with him or watching t.v or going out with him, I achieved by just taking 10 mins walk with him. Those 10 mins he would share his feelings with me and also ask me for my advice on various things. And I am really glad that as a mother I could gain the confidence of my child.

That's not necessary that what worked for my child may work for others as well. But this is just an example. As parents, we have to find out the way how our kids start considering us as their friends and not as someone from whom they just get scoldings and should be afraid of. They should have such a confidence in them that even if they have gone wrong somewhere, they knew that they can talk about it to their parents and sort that all out. As kids, they might not get many hurdles in life but then their small problems might become too big for them at some time in life, if not addressed properly. And that's what a friend does for us. Isn't it?